10 years to Change the Narrative

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10 years to Change the Narrative

“Go laugh in the places you have cried. Change the narrative.” 

Seconds Apart 

The Places…The Story

There are times in life when something shakes you to the core. As time goes by, any reminders of this moment will create ripple effects of trauma. From a familiar aroma to an unpleasant phrase, sometimes just being in the same environment can cause pain that takes on a life of its own.

In the past, a lot of my trauma came from failed relationships or situationships. Memories upon memories of failed expectations and broken promises plagued my thoughts when stuck in friend groups or social settings that serve as constant reminders of your pain and the reality that you still haven’t gotten this thing right. 

I’m learning to appreciate the challenging times more than I despise them because everything we grow through is intended to make us stronger. My decisions aren’t always the best, but I practice what I preach and take all of my L’s as lessons. Once you learn your lesson, share it with a friend you trust or write it in a journal for your future daughter to read in 50 years. 

The trials that we go through are often not for us but the benefit of someone else. However, as a very private person, I don’t encourage you to tell your business to everyone you meet, but speak your truth whenever you mean it. I’m big on creating your own narrative. Tell your side of the story and OWN it. When you hold your truth in your hands, no one can use it against you. 

The Meaning…

This quote stuck out to me because it challenges me to confront my demons. Whatever was meant to break you didn’t. Go back to that place that brought you pain and take back your control. Speak your mind. Share your story. Refuse to allow what hurt you to control you. There is very little in this world that we can control, but our peace is an ever-evolving aspect of our being that needs consistent attention. Do the work and your higher self with thank you for it. 

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Change the Narrative with Leah Yazzy Gibson

The Art of Letting Go

How can I put this into practice? I’ve written letters to every guy that has ever broken my heart. In middle school, I “loved” a boy, and he turned out not to be the guy I thought he was (a running theme I’d soon find to be far too predictable when dealing with young men), and the truth hurt. I had no real outlet to express my feelings, so I wrote him a long letter detailing my feelings and recounting the instances that I felt he failed to be kind.

When I was finished writing, I demolished the letter.  I crumpled it until it was soft to the touch and ripped it into little pieces. I stomped on it, and when I threw it in the trash, I *slightly* spat on it and took a huge sigh of relief. 

I know, I’ve always been dramatic, but I was on to something.

My heart wasn’t hurting anymore, and the anxiety I had about going to school the next day went away. What I felt was a relief. I chose not to bottle up my emotions or hold any anger in my heart. I woke up ready to just move on, and I did precisely that.

My parents have always told me not to get caught up in boys because everything before college is more than likely temporary. I agreed and bought into the reasoning at an early age but found myself confused when I first felt the pain of heartbreak. Puppy love is devasting. 

Full Circle Moments

It wasn’t until recently that I was scrolling on social media, and a therapist popped up with advice to do the exact thing I had done in middle school. In my opinion, she seemed to have forgotten the extra steps of the process in order to truly heal (ripping the paper, aggressively tossing it away, exiting with dramatics, etc.). Still, at that moment, it all came full circle. 

The art of letting go is a tricky concept, but if you just start the process, healing will meet you at the end of the journey. I am an emotional being, and I have always felt the need to be heard, so the process of writing the letter is necessary and therapeutic for me to let go of any pain actively.

I channeled this into my journaling practice and have had moments in my life where I’ve made remarkable self-discoveries that forever changed me for the better. I’ve grown, and the insight I have on my thought process and my emotional awareness is unique. I really get to know myself when I write down the thoughts in my head. I present a new reality, and with my pen, I am allowed to create my own narrative. 

The story only ends when I finish writing it.  

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